Why I Don't Care What You're Doing
Posted on 29 October 2015
Some people spend so much of their time hating other people's choices, judging other people's lives, ranting about what so and so is doing now. You know how I feel about it? Ain't nobody got time for that.
Who has that much time in their day that they can worry about what everyone else is doing in their lives? Honestly. Your daughter has purple hair? Rad. Your nextdoor neighbour just moved his life partner in? Send champagne. Your friend stopped going to church? Oh no, the end is upon us. WHO CARES! Mind your own beeswax! Yup, I just pulled that one out of the vintage vault.
Do you know what I do with my day? I send my husband off to work, I walk my four year old to kindergarten, I feed, entertain, and keep my 16 month old alive, I work part-time from home, I do a million loads of laundry (cloth diapers included), I keep the house tidy, I look after a dog who is neurotic and likes to starve himself and then puke all over my house, I walk and get my son from school, I do more work, more cleaning, bathe the kids, get them to bed... if I have time for yoga and a shower before I crash I'm a happy mama. Did I mention I volunteer and fundraise for charity in my "spare time"? Yup, my campaigns have raised almost $18,000 for cancer research and initiatives in just over three years. So do you think I have time to care what the Joneses are doing down the street? Not in the least.
I truly feel like if we all set out with more purpose to our day, then the world would be a better place. The only thing that matters in life is whether you're a good person. The tough part comes in when people have differing opinions on what's "good", and feel the need to make a fuss about it. Everybody is entitled to their opinion and to live their life their way, that's our right and we're lucky enough in this country to have the freedom to do so. We can be straight, gay, bi, or something in between and still marry who we want to marry. We can have crazy hair, piercings, or tattoos and while it may make getting a job harder (though that's changing slowly), it generally doesn't garner the attention that it once did. We can breast feed or formula feed our children, co-sleep or cry it out, use a stroller or babywear. We can live in a mansion or built an off-grid micro-house. We can live and let live - so why aren't more people doing it?
Who has time for the judgement, bashing, and online bullying? If you have that much time on your hands I suggest you get a hobby, or better yet - find a charity that speaks to you and volunteer or fundraise for them. This world could so easily be a better place, and it starts with you. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Good vibes only.