Badass Since Birth: Baby Girls in 2017
Posted on 16 March 2017
Before my daughter was even born I knew she was going to "different".
After all, she is her mother's daughter.
As I thought about who she'd be and how we'd raise her, there were tons of things that came to mind. I wanted her to be confident, kind, authentic, and caring; I wanted her to keep an open mind and accept other people who were different than her. Mostly I wanted her to be a tough.
In a nutshell, I hoped she'd be someone who:
- Stood up for herself and what she believed in (even if wasn't what everybody else believed)
- Didn't take shit from anybody (us included), and
- Challenged the "girlie" stereotypes to smash through ceilings of perception
So, far I've not been far off (especially on the not taking shit from anybody front). She's got a personality all her own, now where would I find the clothes to match?
Unfortunately, dressing your strong-willed baby girl doesn't always conform to what other people have in mind.
I mean, traditionally, a "beautiful baby girl" is adorned in pink or purple dresses, floral prints, tutus, and glitter. So it's no wonder that we were showered with gifts that matched that style - especially from our older family members… cough, grandparents.
When we developed a style that was outside of expectation, we got hit with a bit of judgment. Constantly being asked why she never wore dresses, or referring to her as a boy (despite a big bow and pieced ears), people couldn't just accept that we were different.
I get it. It's just the way things are for baby girls, and if you're more the "girl next door" type than the edgy, tattooed parent, that probably works for you.
But for the exact reasons that frilly pink dresses and sparkly tutus work for you, they don't work for me.
I mean, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that the world is full of diversity, right? So isn't it about time that people got used to it? I'm not my grandma, or my mother, I'm me. My daughter isn't me or an extension of me, she's her own tiny person.
And, newsflash, there's nothing wrong with that!
In 2017, empowerment isn't just about equal rights, it's about being comfortable in your own skin.
We live in a time where we can empower our girls to be WHOEVER THEY WANT TO BE, and accept them in their ripped jeans, tattoo sleeves and in-your-face tees or frilly lace dresses and sparkle tutus alike.
We should encourage our girls to play in the mud, climb trees, get dirty, and speak up for themselves. Being a girl isn't just about "looking pretty" and speaking only when spoken to anymore - it's about being true to yourself and accepting whatever that looks like.
So if your style is better expressed wearing a band tee, ripped jeans and strong willed attitude, awesome. If it's a pink dress with ruffles and quiet as a mouse, that's awesome too! The trick, regardless of what style best expresses your personality, is to be inclusive and understanding that it's not the same for everyone.